When you hold your marriage up to a mirror what do you see? What should you see?
The image I pray to see is that of the image of Christ and his relationship to the church. He set the example for us to follow. Unselfish sacrificial love and devotion is the height of the bar.
The book of Ephesians in chapter 5 puts it in God's words. Some of the words your about to read have fueled our culture to become quite upset. Sometimes the truth is hard to take, but it's still the truth.
Here we go. Eph 5: 22-24 "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything."
What proceeds verse 22 in 21 is this; "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."
Ok, husbands pay attention. God has a command for us. Eph 5:25-27 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless."
Last January, I had the opportunity to be interviewed by Tim Challies on the topic of my book, which is slated to be released on (or about) October 1, of this year. Since then many women have contacted me after discovering that their husbands are addicted to porn and they are looking for answers.
If you are looking for help in this area, I want to give you one piece of important information; my book now has an official title. (This was not the case last January and "Mosaic Heart" was just the working title.) The title you will want to be looking for is When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography ~ Healing for Your Wounded Heart. New Growth Press is publishing my book.
Here's what you can look forward to ...
My prayer is that you will focus your eyes on the God of Hope, rather than basing your hope and happiness on your husband’s choices. Learning to allow God to meet your greatest needs is a long and learned process, probably longer than the amount of time it will take to go through my interactive book. It’s a slow dance through brokenness in the arms of the Almighty. I know. I’ve been in your shoes and I’ve learned the intricate steps to finding Hope in the midst of a husband’s addiction to pornography.
As you work your way through the book, learning how to let God heal your heart, you will also be dealing with your damaged emotions and painful sexual experience—total healing.
More than anything, I want you, my reader, to know you are not alone or abnormal in your experience and the ensuing feelings that come with a husband’s choice to engage in pornography. I do this by providing true, first-hand accounts from 26 other women who have made it through or are successfully navigating sexual betrayal.
When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography is interactive, giving you ample opportunity to engage in Scripture related to the stages of healing your heart. Guiding questions and plenty of white space give you a place to process your own story and discover how what you are learning in When Your Husband is Addicted to Pornography applies to your unique situation. As a result, you are able to redeem the pain of your own sexual betrayal in the wake of your husband’s pornography addiction, and embrace personal and spiritual growth.