When you hold your marriage up to a mirror what do you see? What should you see?
The image I pray to see is that of the image of Christ and his relationship to the church. He set the example for us to follow. Unselfish sacrificial love and devotion is the height of the bar.
The book of Ephesians in chapter 5 puts it in God's words. Some of the words your about to read have fueled our culture to become quite upset. Sometimes the truth is hard to take, but it's still the truth.
Here we go. Eph 5: 22-24 "Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything."
What proceeds verse 22 in 21 is this; "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."
Ok, husbands pay attention. God has a command for us. Eph 5:25-27 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless."
Friend, we serve a God who forgives, heals, restores, redeems, and sets the captives free! Below is a beautiful prayer I received from the heart of a man who understands the consequences of sexual addiction. Whether you are battling an addiction yourself or you are a wife who's heart has been broken because of your husband's addiction, this is for you. May this prayer minister to you and bring hope to you no matter where you are at on your journey!
Dear sister, there are two relationships in which you WILL respond to, day in and day out, as you try to make sense of the pain you are experiencing. Your response to God and obviously, your response to your husband. The good news is if we recognize the first and are intentional about our perceptions, then our responses to both relationships will be what will help navigate our wounded hearts toward the healing that God has for us.
The truth is, your response towards God and your husband is a reflection of your belief in God's love for you and His promises for your life. Ouch! Did you get that? Tough stuff! I am still trying to wrap my mind around it. What I am seeing in my own life is a woman who's responses have not lined up with who she claims to be...ugh! Sounds like a heart probelm to me! Not pretty!! This revelation has really challenged me in EVERY area of my life.
It seems like on the onslaught of pain, the enemy tries to give us a dose of amnesia when it comes to WHO we KNOW our God is and WHO we are in Him. We become so consumed with our pain and every detail of our husband's choices that nothing else seems to matter. Not only are our hearts broken but our mind becomes the enemy's battleground to cause further damage. He takes advantage of every opportunity to destroy TRUTH with LIES.
Think about what is happening when we give into a sin. Our battle is on two fronts. One is in our mind and the other is the spiritual battle we have going on. Sometimes I think we want to blame the spiritual battle for most of our issues but sometimes it is just us losing the battle in our own inner man.
What can I say; I see it in my own life. It becomes a battle with me to think I deserve something and then it becomes a fantasy. Well God has no desire for us to live in that fantasy world. He wants us to face life as a real person with all our emotions. Sometimes we have had trauma in our own life that will not allow us to face these issues. If that is true for you then please seek professional help to deal with these issues on both fronts, clinically and spiritually. Sometimes it is our view of God that distorts our thinking. We don’t have a clear view of how he feels about us.
On the spiritual side we do have an enemy (Satan) and his goal is to destroy, steal, and rob us of any value from God. He (Satan) loves to plant thoughts that we get sucked into that make us feel less about ourselves when we give in. I heard some say they have grown comfortable with throwing off the thoughts that the enemy brings into their mind. I was impressed with their ability to do this because I personally continue to fail at this in my own life. We have to start to review almost every thought to make sure it lines up with “Jesus thoughts” in Scripture. So the passage “Take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ” is a minute-by-minute choice. So Brent, are you asking me to do this? Well we need to start someplace so if we practice this and see results we will be encouraged to continue pursuing it.
As Jesus states, come and try it. Remember you have tried to fix yourself like I have. Controlling our thoughts is going to take something more than we can do on our own. Remember as Christians we have the Holy Spirit residing in us so let’s use an amazing resource that the Trinity has given us.
Our mind is the ultimate place Satan can motivate us to make choices. If we use the resources God has provided us to live in His Spirit we may see changes in areas we have never seen before.
Remember where the Spirit of the Lord is there is Freedom! I don’t know about you but that sounds like a good place to be!
What would you do if your son, daughter, husband or wife approached you and said, "I'm addicted to pornography... I can't quit. I want to, but I can't." Would you know what to say? Does it seem impossible that you'd ever hear that from a loved one? Thoughts?