Nearly 12 million people in America today fight a sexual addiction, according to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Pornography is recognized as an addiction in the counseling and psychological community. It has been treated similarly by Alcoholics Anonymous since the late 1970’s.
Addictions are labeled as diseases and disorders by the medical community. I’m not writing this to dispute those labels, but to speak to what my experience and education by said experience has taught me about addiction. And in particular, my (past) addiction to pornography (sexual addiction).
Pornography in and of itself is sin. Therefore, a pornography addiction is sinful. The bible teaches us this in 1 Corinthians 6:18 “Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” Galatians 5:19 “The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery;”
The Bible is very clear in these two passages. There are more that are just as clear. Sexual immorality and adultery are not limited to the married people.
Single people who engage in premarital sex are guilty in the eyes of God. Lusting with your eyes and heart are sin in the eyes of God. Jesus died to put those sins to death.
This sinful choice in my life was destructive and produced a lot of collateral damage to my family. If you think that your porn watching is harmless, you are already deeply deceived.
Anyone who attempts to justify pornography’s existence and use is an advocate of Satan and likely don’t’ or won’t even understand that fact. You cannot look gaze upon the face of Christ and porn at the same time.
In the initial stages of recovery for me and our marriage, we sought pastoral counseling. Honestly, not much help. The pastor lacked the understanding of the power of a porn addiction. He didn’t see it as an addiction.
If God had not intervened in my life when and how He did, I’ve no doubt I’d still be in the grip of the addiction.
In the depth of my brokenness I literally cried out to God to take it from me. In the midst of my tears and shame God caused the healing to begin.
I sought no counselor at all. I’m not recommending that path, because undoubtedly a Christian Counselor, who understands the addiction, would have been of great help and would have pointed me to Christ sooner, more directly and in healthy ways. Most likely relieving me of a few years of an intense battle.
Christ alone brought me to victory. He placed brothers in the Lord in my life. Lead me to Covenant Eyes software and gave me accountability partners to walk with me. The Holy Spirit opened my eyes to the convicting and freeing truth of the bible to equip me to fight the battle.
Weapons for the battle
Here are a few of the verses that convicted and guided me to recovery. I offer them to you as weapons to overcome, in Christ, the battle with pornography. These are great weapons, but not the only ones. Accountability partners are a must! If you don’t have one or more, get some, today!
1 Corinthians 6:9-11 “9 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. 11 And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.”
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself.
Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.
The Ultimate Battle Buddy
The single greatest ally we have in the battle for purity and against porn is Christ himself and the saving grace He gives us when we repent of our sin and see Him.
His Word, the sword is a powerful offensive in this battle. Pick up this weapon, seek it’s Creator for strength in His grace. Christ overcame so that we can also. In Him and with Him is the only sure hope for freedom.
Finally, Paul puts it best in Galatians 5:13 “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.”