Just for Today; Encouragement for my Hurting Sisters


As a NEW YEAR begins, many will take time to reflect on the past twelve months;  the joys, the growth, the changes, the challenges along with the tears, the regrets, the losses, the hurts and the pain.

Although a new year is dawning, many have hurts from yesterday that will carry over.

Some sisters are still on their arduous journey of healing while others may have just begun. Friend,  I don't know where this new year finds you, what hurts you woke up with today, what wounds are gaping open or what thoughts torment you. However, I do know that in the darkness following betrayal, Jesus illuminates that darkness with the light of His enduring love and there He embraces His beloved, broken daughter.  Friend, this is where your healing begins!

You probably are not even concerned at this point about New Year's resolutions, you just wonder how you will make it through another day. I understand.  You need relief. You need hope.  You long for healing.  The good news is, although there is no quick fix or three step formulas,  we have a Savior who's very name means Healer.  I can tell you this, as a daughter of God, your healing WILL come. As you surrender each broken piece, God WILL make a way for you.  Your heart will not always hurt as it does today.  However, let's be honest, healing from betrayal doesn't just happen.  There will be choices to make every single day that will either help or hinder your road to wholeness. God, in His Divine wisdom asks us to be an active participant. This means making intentional choices that line up with the Word of God.  Not always easy, I know! However, it is God working IN you that will enable YOU to carry out His will for you every single day!  Whether your husband chooses to seek deliverance and restoration for your marriage or not...YOUR heart needs healing!  Dear sister, please don't wait for your husband or your circumstances to change...YOU step out in faith and do what God is asking YOU to do.   I am not in anyway downplaying your hurt, dear one. You did not cause it nor did you ask for it.   I KNOW how painful betrayal is. There are no words to describe it. I also know and have experienced healing for my own broken heart and you can, too! Here's the deal, my friend...after working through some of the initial emotions and shock of it all,  we have to determine to take responsibility for our own response to our wounds.  It is what we do in the aftermath that determines if we will remain damaged or if we will allow beauty to come from the ashes.

I recently saw this quote:

"Your devastation is only as lengthy as your hesitation - Let God work in you"  

IT is our obedience to His will and His Word that will set us FREE.  Are you ready? Do you WANT to be healed? Just as Jesus asked the man at Bethesda, He is asking you and He is asking me. What will your response be?  Will you make excuses OR will you follow God's Word and be made whole? YOU get to choose~

The following are just a FEW things that I would like to share with you that have helped me navigate my way through the unintended journey that has been a part of my story. Unfortunately, I have not always put these things into practice and I have felt and suffered the consequences.  It has been a long journey of learning, growing, and stretching. However,  I can tell you that God's way works! Let's get started!

Just for today...

Embrace THIS day as a gift from your Creator. In spite of your hurts, your brokenness, your messy world...today is STILL a gift, don't waste it.  STOP worrying about tomorrow, next week, or next year. Seriously, you can do this!

Philippians 4:6 Do not worry about anything instead pray about everything.  Tell God what you need, and thank Him for ALL He has done.  Then you will experience God's peace which exceeds anything we can understand.  His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.

Just for today...

Intentionally choose to NOT dwell on the hurts of yesterday or the pain of today.  If God allowed it, He WILL use it. Pain that is surrendered to Christ will bring forth beauty that far out weighs the messy. Put Philippians 4:8 into practice.  Memorize it! Your thoughts have the power to make you or break you.  They are very important to God.

Just for today...

Think about the thoughts you have been thinking about yourself.  Do they line up with WHO God says you are? So often in the aftermath of betrayal, we FEEL devalued, worthless, not enough, etc. which leads us to think thoughts about ourselves that are destructive.   If what you are thinking does not line up with the TRUTH in God's Word, you are believing the LIES of the enemy.  Your husband's choices DO NOT define YOU!! Your value, worth and significance was settled at the cross!! You are valued, cherished, chosen, redeemed, called, and dearly loved by your Creator! Think about that!!

Just for today...

Stop the guilt trips. Carrying the burdensome baggage from yesterday into today will accomplish NOTHING productive for the Kingdom of GOD, it will only weigh you down. The price for your mistakes, regrets, and sins of yesterday has already been paid. To accept Jesus as your LORD and Savior means you acknowledge that His death on the cross was enough for YOU.  Whether that was a week ago or 20 years ago...His GRACE is STILL enough and HIS LOVE for you knows no bounds.   Those sins you have repented of have been forgiven, sweet one. HIS mercies are NEW every morning  (Lamentations 3:23) which means TODAY is a NEW day...fresh, clean, unblemished by the sins of your past!! You are FORGIVEN!!!

1 John 1:9  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

Just for today...

Make some time to spend with your Savior through praise, prayer and reading the Word. Don't allow your pain, anger or any other negative feelings to keep you away from the ONE who longs to be your place of security and comfort.  Read Psalm 91 and place YOUR name in it.  Embrace God's Word for your life...I mean REALLY embrace it! Believe it and APPLY it to your life, your heart and your situation.

Just for today...

Look for joy in the simple things.  Expect God to speak to your heart and show you his love through the GOOD, glorious, amazing miracles of His creation. They are all around you!

Just for today...

Count your blessings.  I understand you are hurting but there are STILL reasons to be thankful.  Make a list. Write them down, then be sure to thank God for each and everyone!

Just for today...

Do something nice for someone else.  Make a phone call, send a card, visit a friend, be a blessing to a hurting friend. This is one of the most powerful things you can do to recapture JOY that may seem lost by your own brokenness.

Proverbs 11:25 He who refreshes others will himself be refreshed.

Just for today...

Quit trying to control your husband. Control is selfish and brings false security and bondage to your own life. Your husband has to take responsibility for his own recovery just as you do. Walk in freedom today and allow your husband to do the same.  Remind yourself that your husband is in God's hands, not yours.  YOU cannot FIX him! Take your eyes OFF of him and FIX them on Jesus! Do what you know you must do and let God handle the rest.  God's Word says that you, my friend, are clothed with STRENGTH and DIGNITY (Proverbs 31:25), you just have to walk that out! A controlling wife is exchanging God's beautiful wardrobe (strength and dignity) for repulsive rags (fear and insecurity). It doesn't work and it is NOT pretty!  

Job 11:18 You will be secure because there is hope; you will look about you and take rest in safety.

Hebrews 2:2 Let us fix our eyes on JESUS, the author and perfecter of our faith...

Just for today...

Do something for YOU! Take a walk, read a book, bake a cake, watch a movie,  or whatever YOU enjoy doing. Do not allow yourself to have another day of depression or despair.  Get up, get moving!!

Colossians 1:12  Thank the Father who makes us strong enough to take part in everything bright and beautiful that He has for us. (msg)

Just for today...

Stop trying to figure everything out and make sense of your brokenness. It is wasted emotion and energy. Quit asking "Why, me?" Breath out the disappointment and self-pity that comes with that question. It is a trap of the enemy to keep your heart from healing and to fill it with bitterness.  KNOW that God WILL use what you are going through for GOOD! Believe it!

Psalm 138:8  The Lord will fulfill His purpose for me; your steadfast love, O Lord endures forever...

Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purposes for them.

Just for today...

Release.  Surrender.  Give your life to Christ..... meaning your heart, your mess, your marriage, your spouse, your family, your future, your brokenness...ALL of it! Bow before Him and lay each one on His alter of love and mercy. Do it again and again until you can walk away EMPTY handed.  God's precise grace is sufficient for you!  As you lay down what means the most to you, you will receive God's best for you. As you let go of these things, you may initially feel stripped, naked and vulnerable. It may feel odd and uncomfortable. That's okay, sweet sister...some of those things you have held onto for years. Let. Go.

Galatians 2:20 My old self has been crucified with Christ.  It is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me.  So I live in this earthly body by trusting in the Son of God who loved me and gave himself for me.

Friend, when we choose to follow God instead of our hurt feelings and fickle emotions...we will find peace and the pathway to healing.  Though you may not be able to do ALL of the above EVERY day...even a couple of them can lift your heart to a place where you can find peace for your troubled heart. I would also like to add that Godly counseling AND sharing with a lady/mentor who understands what you are going through is so very needful and beneficial.  

There will be good days and not so good days. God's GRACE is sufficient for both!  It's a journey and a process that God walks through WITH you! You are never alone!  

Girlfriend, hold on to Jesus and believe that 2014 is the year for your wounded heart to find healing and for your eyes to more clearly behold our Mighty God and experience His beautiful blessings like never before!!  I am believing with you!


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