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Has your church EVER addressed pornography?

I can honestly say I've NEVER been in a church service that directly dealt with pornography addiction or sexual addiction. The nearest reference to it are the slides before each service reading, "Struggling with addiction? Celebrate meets Wednesday nights." It's like they're telling you up front... "If you're struggling, we have a place for you, but this aint it." Am I glad there's a place? Sure.

I'm not trying to say all churches are like this. It's just been my experience that it seems like there's a mindset of, "There's a place to talk about addictions, but church isn't it."

How about you? Has your church talked about porn addiction?

Single Mom needs advice for son

I'm a widow raising 2 kids, one is an eleven yr old son, who's dad died when he was 3. How can I protect him from porn addiction? We go to a great church, he attends a good christian school. I live a happy celibate life, with no desire to remarry. He doesn't have a close relationship with any men though. No one will step up to the plate for him (dysfunction in my family big time). I monitor the internet, and we do not have TV. I'm trying to do my best, but it's been easy so far, I know the teen years are coming. Any advice?

How do I get out?

I'm a teenage girl. And a Christian. I've been looking at porn since 4th grade ( I think that's when it was). I don't even remember how I got into it. I just know that I've fallen into this pit and I don't know how to get out. Every time I succumb to my sexual desires I feel like....well, like the worst thing I can think of. I've always heard that it's the guys who are wired to think visually or sexually...somehow I'm that way too. In the last several years, it's been going on off and on. Sometimes I can resist, but it's been so long since I've been able to. I found a friend who struggles with this too. We've been trying to encourage each other to keep fighting. I know I'm supposed to go to a trusted Christian adult to be accountable with, but I don't even know who to go to. Please, please pray for me. Any advice??

"Sleeping" fathers

I am a mother of sons they are struggling with staying free of porn. Not sure the addiction level...but there is some addiction.

I have been battling this alone on behalf of my sons on and off for some years. Both were introduced while young outside the home.

I am not sure what I can do to help them. They both seem to desire to be free of it but don't know how. At least one struggles with believing that he can become truly free.

Their father is emotionally disengaged from this. He refuses to be involved. It has been grievous to me because they need men to help them. I asked men at our church to help but none would respond...not even pastors. No one will talk and this stuff is taking down our fine young men (as well as older men/women/children).

I don't know what to do to help them...your website is great but I need to have information that is put in step by step form if possible because it seems quite overwhelming. Do you have any information for mothers (with absent fathers) who want to help their sons? or is there anyone personally to contact for a plan of action?

~a praying/battling/grieving/abandoned mom

Ugh

I'm in highschool. I am a Christian, incredibly involved in my church. I have a passion and love for God. I love to worship. I want God's plan for my life. But, I'm addicted to pornography. I have a friend who kept me accountable a year or so ago, but he's gone from my life now. I don't really know what to do. Heard about this site on the radio. I feel like this is the one thing in my life holding me back. it feels like crap. ugh.