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My husband is addicted to porn and now he is chatting on websites. He recently has been talking on the phone with a women who he said is like him. He doesn't understand that I am not able to get close with him because of what I witness with the pornography and the videos I have seen of him showing his private parts to women. I love my husband but I am tired of always being blamed for the reason he uses porn. He said he would stop if i paid attention to him. But as soon as I drop the ball back to porn he goes. We have been married ten years and for ten years I have been dealing with this.

Single Mom needs advice for son

I'm a widow raising 2 kids, one is an eleven yr old son, who's dad died when he was 3. How can I protect him from porn addiction? We go to a great church, he attends a good christian school. I live a happy celibate life, with no desire to remarry. He doesn't have a close relationship with any men though. No one will step up to the plate for him (dysfunction in my family big time). I monitor the internet, and we do not have TV. I'm trying to do my best, but it's been easy so far, I know the teen years are coming. Any advice?

How to introduce the personal tool kit to a person

My husband and I are going through a trying time in our marriage. I have considered leaving but at the same time I am just not ready to give up on him. I have confronted him about his activities on the computer and the activities at night while everyone is asleep. I have seen with my own eyes the sites he has been on, profiles that have been made and I caught him in the act many of nights when he thought i was sleeping and when asked what he was doing all he could say is nothing,you dont know what you saw,i never heard of it, i dont know who it could be wasn't me and many more. He has finally admitted to all of the above mentioned when I asked him one night about an email account i find on my computer and he tried to deny it until i told him that this email account and his primary email account were linked together and i found and was able to long onto one of his profiles that had all of his credentials and what he was looking for. At first he didn't want to believe me and tried to give me the same excuse until i told him i would log on to the profile and email account and let him see for himself and he didn't want me to. He told me he would seek counseling through his job but only a little effort has been made and the pamphlet still layes on my kitchen table where he can see it and it has been there since he brought it home and he said he could quit cold turkey and he has strong will power to stay away. I have started my personal counselling with my minister to help me with the healing process of my hurt and betrayal and the forgiveness that i need to allow in my heart so i can be ready to be there for him when he chooses to believe he has an addiction and that he needs some guidance through this. So now there is my story and here is my question, I have purchased the personal tool kit ater watching the promo video and i found it for me very very helpful. If my husband feels there is nothing wrong, everything will blow over without any help of any kind and i just need to get over it. What will be the best way to introduce this personal tool kit to him and how will i ask him to do it with me? I dont know how to go about any of it any suggestions would be appreciated and helpful.

How do I get out?

I'm a teenage girl. And a Christian. I've been looking at porn since 4th grade ( I think that's when it was). I don't even remember how I got into it. I just know that I've fallen into this pit and I don't know how to get out. Every time I succumb to my sexual desires I feel like....well, like the worst thing I can think of. I've always heard that it's the guys who are wired to think visually or sexually...somehow I'm that way too. In the last several years, it's been going on off and on. Sometimes I can resist, but it's been so long since I've been able to. I found a friend who struggles with this too. We've been trying to encourage each other to keep fighting. I know I'm supposed to go to a trusted Christian adult to be accountable with, but I don't even know who to go to. Please, please pray for me. Any advice??

"Sleeping" fathers

I am a mother of sons they are struggling with staying free of porn. Not sure the addiction level...but there is some addiction.

I have been battling this alone on behalf of my sons on and off for some years. Both were introduced while young outside the home.

I am not sure what I can do to help them. They both seem to desire to be free of it but don't know how. At least one struggles with believing that he can become truly free.

Their father is emotionally disengaged from this. He refuses to be involved. It has been grievous to me because they need men to help them. I asked men at our church to help but none would respond...not even pastors. No one will talk and this stuff is taking down our fine young men (as well as older men/women/children).

I don't know what to do to help them...your website is great but I need to have information that is put in step by step form if possible because it seems quite overwhelming. Do you have any information for mothers (with absent fathers) who want to help their sons? or is there anyone personally to contact for a plan of action?

~a praying/battling/grieving/abandoned mom

Ugh

I'm in highschool. I am a Christian, incredibly involved in my church. I have a passion and love for God. I love to worship. I want God's plan for my life. But, I'm addicted to pornography. I have a friend who kept me accountable a year or so ago, but he's gone from my life now. I don't really know what to do. Heard about this site on the radio. I feel like this is the one thing in my life holding me back. it feels like crap. ugh.

Interesting Perspective!

By Pamela Paul: "Pornified: How Pornography is Transforming our lives, our relationships, and our families"

"Pornography is a moving target and it's time we catch up with it. For years, the pornography industry and the pornified culture have told both men and women who oppose pornography to shut up or turn a blind eye. They have accused anti-pornography activisits, or even those who have dared question their profit equation, of being anti-sex product that limits the freedom of men, women, and children. They have sold America on the idea of fantasy while inciting us to ignore reality. Those who have been silenced have only served to further legitimize pornography with their lack of censure. Those who are now quiet must speak out."

Are we legitimizing pornography with our silence?

Thoughts...?