Shocking Discovery

I have just discovered that my husband of 17 years has an addiction to porn. I am devastated. The pain is sooo deep it is hard to live each day. Is there validity to my pain? He thinks it is not the same as an extramarital affair. I feel that he might as well be doing that because he has crossed the marriage boundaries. It feels very much that he has been unfaithful. Can someone comment please? This is so fresh, just a couple of days, and I am having trouble sleeping and eating. Every hour of the day is a battle.




March 18, 2013

I’m so sorry to hear of your pain. As the wife of a sex-addict that God has set free, I know how devastating the sin of another person can be. I’m sure your husband already knows that being unfaithful begins in the mind. If that were not true, Christ would have never said that if you “look” at a woman with lust in your heart, you have ALREADY committed adultry. Unfortunately, you can’t force a person to change or to get help. The only thing you can do is protect yourself. Someone once told me, you can’t control another persons actions, you can only control what you are willing to accept. I will be praying that God gives you the wisdom to know what to do and that through Him you will have the strength you need. My marriage is a living testamony of the power of the Cross and God’s healing power!


March 18, 2013

The Freedom Begins Here website has a free download that may be of help to you. It is Deb Laaser talking about her struggle when she found out what her husband was involved in. It is available on the home page and this is the link:
It is called “A Spouse’s Perspective.”

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