I have just discovered that my husband of 17 years has an addiction to porn. I am devastated. The pain is sooo deep it is hard to live each day. Is there validity to my pain? He thinks it is not the same as an extramarital affair. I feel that he might as well be doing that because he has crossed the marriage boundaries. It feels very much that he has been unfaithful. Can someone comment please? This is so fresh, just a couple of days, and I am having trouble sleeping and eating. Every hour of the day is a battle.