This is something I wrote in my blog at Lampstand Christian Forum Community, here are some highlights:
This is the question I have been trying to find an answer to for the longest time, and have yet to grasp as far as the Biblical model as presented by Paul in 1 Corinthians.
In Hebrews, the writer warns, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." (Vs. 4) But what happens to those, who may NEVER have a marriage bed? Paul urges purity in 1 Corinthians:
"The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body." 6:13b...
..."I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord." 7:32-35
Concern for the affairs of the Lord, and pleasing the Lord. But is this enough of a reason to motivate someone to pursue purity in this day and age? I wish it were so, with me. Jesus said, "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:27-28 NIV) which can include pornography, and of which I am gulity of, even as of late. Singleness has been described as a gift, but it is one gift that I do NOT really want. I want to be a husband and a father, but looking at myself, it does not seem possible. So, again I ask, "Why Purity?"
Anyone who wants to give some insights or encouragements or whatever, please, give your comments. Thanks.