I can honestly say I've NEVER been in a church service that directly dealt with pornography addiction or sexual addiction. The nearest reference to it are the slides before each service reading, "Struggling with addiction? Celebrate meets Wednesday nights." It's like they're telling you up front... "If you're struggling, we have a place for you, but this aint it." Am I glad there's a place? Sure.
I'm not trying to say all churches are like this. It's just been my experience that it seems like there's a mindset of, "There's a place to talk about addictions, but church isn't it."
How about you? Has your church talked about porn addiction?
It's no wonder most churches will not help people with sexual addictions. They refuse to acknowledge that such a thing could exist in their community of worshipers. What bothers me most is when you talk about issues of lust. Most of any congregation will tell they don't struggle with that. There's not a single man, in any church. That can say they never looked at a woman lustfully. Yet, they tell their mothers, wives, and daughters that lust is not an issue with them. What a lie! Holiness doesn't mean excellence, it means perfection. I'm not perfect, they're not perfect. They should stop the lies and acknowledge that we are not only capable of sexual sin, but have already committed it in one form or another. We must continually pray for one another, and bath ourselves in scripture.
Been suicidal for a long time. Still can't find a good accountability partner and you'd think with living in Cali that people would be more open but they r really just more judgemental. Does it really matter whether or not I live a long life or not? I doubt it. Who wants to live a life with a past haunting him every day? 2 Scrips. come to mind:"The wages of sin is death but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. and 2)"I have come that they may have life and have it more abundantly."
What are some of the things we avoid in the church?
I would say one of the top things is pride. I guess we get the "pride comes before the fall" speech in Sunday School and then the topic is completely avoided after that.
Pride, in my opinion, has a lot to do with the reasons that people don't come out about their struggles and addictions. They don't want to admit failure or even the slightest bit of unfaithfulness, so they hide.
What are some more silent topics in our church today?
This is something I wrote in my blog at Lampstand Christian Forum Community, here are some highlights:
This is the question I have been trying to find an answer to for the longest time, and have yet to grasp as far as the Biblical model as presented by Paul in 1 Corinthians.
In Hebrews, the writer warns, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." (Vs. 4) But what happens to those, who may NEVER have a marriage bed? Paul urges purity in 1 Corinthians:
"The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body." 6:13b...
..."I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord." 7:32-35
Concern for the affairs of the Lord, and pleasing the Lord. But is this enough of a reason to motivate someone to pursue purity in this day and age? I wish it were so, with me. Jesus said, "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:27-28 NIV) which can include pornography, and of which I am gulity of, even as of late. Singleness has been described as a gift, but it is one gift that I do NOT really want. I want to be a husband and a father, but looking at myself, it does not seem possible. So, again I ask, "Why Purity?"
Anyone who wants to give some insights or encouragements or whatever, please, give your comments. Thanks.
My husband admitted to me that he was addicted to porn almost 4yrs ago and he is just now finally seeking help. I've spent the last 4 yrs trying to do everything I can to make life easier for him so he wont look at the stuff. Im frustrated and weary. I've blamed myself. The only thing that has kept me from walking out the door would be my relationship with Jesus and my 4 children. I'm hurt and I feel guilty. Actually my husband has accused me many times of not forgiving him but its not true. I have asked Jesus time and time again to take the pain away so I can fully be there for my husband. I've tried to push my pain aside for his but all I have felt in return is that Jesus cares more about my husbands pain than mine. I know its not true and I have been seeking counseling and Im going to continue bc I really want to move on with my life and not let this addiction consume me everyday of my life. Does anyone else know how that feels?
Where and what are Bible verses in dealing with controlling the urges to masterbate?