PORN - The New Four Letter Word in the Church

June 12, 2014
Dan Wobschall

Ignoring a life threatening problem that you know exists, is tantamount to a slow suicide. Yet, many churches refuse to deal with such a threat.

Sexual sin and pornography are that sickness.

Much like mold that's growing behind a wall, under a floor or in a dark basement corner, are pornography discussions in the church. They are icky and people would rather not hear about it and, want someone else to deal with it, if at all. 

In other words, it's left up to those who are willing, if any, to get their hands dirty, messy and to clean it up. 

Far too often, no one is willing.

And no matter how many times or ways you attempt to ignore or superficially cover up the mold (sexual sin/porn) it continues to slowly grow and destroy. 

Hiding Creates a Greater Problem (Author - Bill Perkins / Porn Free Church , Covenant Eyes)
When something is forbidden, or banned on grounds of morality, it becomes taboo. Nothing in the church is more taboo than sexual sins. Indeed, the hallmark of Christian virtue is sexual purity. The Bible repeatedly tells us to abstain from sexual immorality and pursue purity (1 Thess. 4:5; 2 Tim. 2:22; 1 Pet. 1:14; 2:11; 1 John 2:16). And so as believers we should set a high biblical standard of sexual purity and condemn sexual sins. 

The problem is, when we hammer away on the evils of sexual sins people decide not to talk about them at all. And since it’s not talked about, everyone assumes there is no problem. Or, if there is one, it’s with other people. 

Since pastors are expected to live lust-free lives, they also refuse to discuss their personal struggle to remain sexually pure. No wonder—if a pastor admits he’s got a problem with porn, regardless of how limited the problem may be, he could be fired and blackballed. 

Moreover, the taboo nature of sexual sins in the church makes them more exciting to commit. While doing research for one of my books on addictive behavior, I conducted a telephone interview with a leading expert in the field of sexual addictions. He told me, “I believe evangelical Christians have a greater tendency to fall into sexual addictions than any other sub-culture in the United States.” 

When I asked him why, he said, “Because sexual sins are so taboo in the church people find them more exciting. Once they commit a taboo sexual act, they refuse to tell anyone. Their belief that they have done something bad creates guilt which leads to shame. This shame generates pain which they try to medicate with more sexually taboo activity. The deeper they fall into sexually deviant behavior the more closely they must guard their secret. The longer the behavior continues, the more addictive it becomes, and the more it destroys their core being." 

 
Here are a few eye opening statistics for you:
  • 51% of pastors say Internet pornography is a possible temptation.
  • 75% of pastors do not make themselves accountable to anyone for their Internet use.
  • (over) 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all christian women say they are addicted to pornography.
(source:http://www.covenanteyes.com/pornstats/)

Do you think there's a problem in the church? Is it being confronted? It's pretty clear that the answers are yes and no, respectively

Men in our churches are being told to go find a counselor, outside of the church. Many pastors are not equipped to respond to addictive pornography or sexual struggles. Many don't want to deal with it.  I've had men I'm mentoring tell me just that. Sad, but true. 

All this information begs the question:
Why isn't the church confronting, openly, this issue of sexual sin, whatever shape it takes? There is more than one answer. Here are a few I believe make the top of the list.
  • It's too uncomfortable to talk about
  • It might damage the image of the church (pride)
  • Not equipped to respond to the problem
  • Denial that porn is an issue in the church
  • Don't believe the statistics are real
  • Those in leadership are themselves gripped by the addiction

All of these excuses and any others are lies and deceptions straight out of the mouth of Satan. You cannot defeat an enemy you will not confront. And confronting sexual sin is one ugly and 
messy battle to fight. 

Exposing to the light of Christ, the lies of satan and they begin to die. 
  
Pornography use and addiction is one of, it not the most prominent causes of divorce today. Statistics bare this out: 
  • 56% of divorce cases involved one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites. 
  • 68% of divorce cases involved one party meeting a new lover over the Internet

It's my firm belief that refusing to confront the sexual sin & pornography epidemic in the church, is it's single greatest threat.  

Departing words from Hebrews
Hebrews 12:15-17 (NIV) "See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many. See that no one is sexually immoral, or is godless like Esau, who for a single meal sold his inheritance rights as the oldest son. Afterward, as you know, when he wanted to inherit this blessing, he was rejected. Even though he sought the blessing with tears, he could not change what he had done."
(emphasis mine)



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Resources :
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Covenant Eyes - Porn Free Church
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Global Christian Center
http://globalchristiancenter.com
Follow this LINK to an article from the Global Christian Center on this very subject.

Bible Gateway
www.biblegateway.com 



1 Comment

Eric V

July 21, 2014

Thank you for this article and all the work you are doing. I just stood up in front of my church today and admitted to having adulteress behavior by using pornography and other adult websites.

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